Monday, November 24, 2008

Transracial Adoption

I have been reading this book called "In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories". I find this book to be insightful yet very challenging. Most of the stories I have read so far make me feel like I shouldn't be adopting a black child. The children would have preferred to be adopted by a black family. Then I think, wait a minute...We may not look like the best but God has called us to this task. David didn't look the part to win over Goliath. Abraham and Sarah didn't look the part to have a child so late in life. The list goes on. God frequently chooses the unlikely to bless others. No we are not black and never will be even close. In fact I think we are a white as can be. Neither of us can Tan even if we try. For some reason not fully revealed to us, God has chose this unlikely family living in Mountlake Terrace to search the world for there next child.

Home Study completed

We had our final meeting with JoAnn last Tuesday and she has already sent us the first draft. I still cannot believe we managed to get our home study done in one week. We are looking forward to mailing in our dossier.

Friday, November 14, 2008

Visit #2- Check

We just finished our 2nd home study visit which was also the home walk through. Before both of our visits I feel all nervous and kind of crazy and then when it happens its no big deal. Our social worker, JoAnn, has a great calm spirit and brings peace to the situation. We all had lunch and visited and then Andrew had his one-on-one interview. He sometime reminds me of a teenage boy. I ask "how did it go?", expecting to hear ALL about it. He responds, "good." That's it. I have to ply the rest out of him which still isn't much. Oh well, he says it went good. I guess I'll read about it when I read our home study. We plan on finishing the home study next tuesday the 18th!!!! I cannot believe only 2 months ago we sent in our contracts. God has been so good to us, helping us to be so productive. Once it is finished we will send in our dossier and be placed on the waiting list. WOW!

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Adoption- Greater than the universe (John Piper)

I found this short video on a fellow blogger's site. please watch- it is about 5 mins.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Home Study not at home

Tonight we had our first home study visit. I assumed they were all in your home, hence the name. This is in fact not true. We met in Bellingham in a small cozy office with squishy couches, decorated with pictures of adopted families. It was nice. I didn't see dust I should have removed or a random toy hidden in the cushions. It was as relaxing as I can imagine a interview on my life can be. Now this FRIDAY (yes, that is in 2 days!), our social worker is coming to our house for the inspection and Andrew's one-on-one interview. I should be freaking out. I work all day tomorrow and am cooking for community group on Thursday. I still haven't grocery shopped or put away dishes from this morning. When I look around at the random toys, which seem to be arranged like an obstacle course, and think is this going to get all clean. Thankfully I have an amazing husband who manages to take wonderful care of our children and clean the house. The past 2 weekends I have worked, when I have gotten home the kids were in bed and he was moping the kitchen. What a beautiful sight! Next Tuesday we will again head up north to Bellingham and have our last meeting. Hopefully God will bless her fingers to write quickly and accurately and we will be able to send in our dossier within the next few weeks. Please be praying for Andrew and I portray ourselves accurately and that God will give us glory strength to get through this week with joy and not frustration.

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Home Study

We have our first home study visit scheduled for Tuesday the 11th. I am excited but also nervous. I really have no idea what to expect. Our social worker said the first visit would be about 3 hours. Wow! I'll write how it goes afterwards.

Saturday, November 1, 2008

Exciting news!

We received our business permit for the store. Hopefully the build out process will go smoothly and we can open soon.

Also, a wonderful woman I work with gave me some beautiful jewelry to sell for our adoption. What a surprising blessing!

Discouraging news

We received this email from a case worker at our agency. It is discouraging to us but also to the children waiting for families.
"Over the last month we have heard rumors that Ethiopian government was working on changes in the processing of adoptions—this is always a possibility so of course needed to wait for confirmation before fully understanding what this could look like. In the last few days we have received information on additional procedures that the Ethiopian government has decided to implement. This involves centralization of the adoption process. Unfortunately, the goal of the new implementation is aimed at minimizing the number of children adopted internationally. Due to these changes, please note that the timeframe of your adoption will be impacted and the waiting time for travel following referral will be lengthened. Even with this new step we will continue to advocate for these adoptions to be completed in the quickest and smoothest manner. "
It is hard to understand why the government is implementing these new changes. It is disappointing to hear we will have to wait even longer to meet our child. I just keep telling myself that God is in control of which child and when it all happens. I cannot control even the smallest detail. I am again reminded that when God calls us to walk down a path, he does not give us the whole picture. We are to simply obey each step of the way.