Sunday, December 28, 2008

snow days

Happy Birthday Baby Jesus!
"Nippy" the snow dog


Tomorrow we will be attempting to get our fingerprints done for USCIS again. We have had to cancel twice due to snow. Also our dossier was received and reviewed. One mistake was found because I accidentally sent 3 copies of one document instead of 1 original and 2 copies. I had to UPS the missing form on Xmas eve which means we are still not officially on the waiting list. When I spoke with Julie, our case worker, she said we would be approximately 20 on the boys and 30 on the girls lists. She is out of the office until January 5th so we won't hear anything until then.

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Dossier sent it!

Exactly 3 months from sending off our contracts, I was back at the UPS store sending off our dossier. I am amazed that we were able to complete it so quickly. Now we move from this busy paperwork season to a season of waiting. Once our dossier is approved we will be placed on the waiting list. Since we are not choosing a boy or girl we will be placed on both lists. It is really weird not having a due date like you do in pregnancy. We have no gauge as too how long we will be waiting. People that are getting referrals now have been on the list approx 5-6 months. The wait can be up to 8 months as well. Even after we have a referral it is up in the air a bit as to how long it will be before we travel. too be continued...

Friday, December 5, 2008


Home Study Approved! Planning on sending our dossier as soon as we get the home study.

Edge of a pool

Our 7th Wedding anniversary is coming up and we have a tradition of buying each other Xmas ornaments that symbolize something special that year. So today I hit the mall to find that perfect one. I knew exactly what I was looking for: something that symbolized our adoption (a black baby or child ornament). I went to 4 stores that carry ornaments. Not even ONE of them had a child ornament that was anything but white. Only one store had a ornament of a black angel and that was hallmark. I think it was the first time it really hit me that our child will see this type of thing all the time. I was aware of the obvious struggles like mean comments by a classmate or body image struggles. I just didn't realize to the micro-level our child will be aware of their differences all the time. I feel like I am on the edge of a swimming pool of understanding racial struggles. (I'm not quite sure how to say this). I know our transracial transnational adoption is going to change our lives but I am still on the edge of the pool. Very soon we will jump in, immerse ourselves. We will not be able to ignore how our eyes will be opened. It reminds me of the first time you visit a 3rd world country. You cannot return home and think the same way. On some level you have changed. You have experienced things and seen things that change you at the core. I have always heard about white privilege and maybe even scoffed it a bit because I didn't understand it. I am on the edge of that pool knowing that very soon God is going to allow me to see things my heart was never ready for.