3 Months ago today!
Wow. How did 3 months go by so fast? Here are the most common questions I get and the answers:
1.) How is he bonding?
Great! and not so good. He is like a mommy suction cup. If he is on my body, he is happy. If he is not, he cries real tears. When I am home he only likes to be fed from me. Anyone else gets a fit. He is a passionate little boy. So the great is that he very much is attached to me and loves it. The not so great is that my arms get a bit tired each day carrying around his 22 lb booty.
2.) How are the kids doing together?
Better than I expected. Emelia loves Levi. She is very helpful and patient when he needs me. LEvi also LOVES Emelia. She can get him to belly laugh doing the simplest things. Charlie LOVES Levi. He still thinks Levi is his personal stuffed animal. He will push LEvi over and lay on top of him saying, "cuddle Levi, cuddle Levi". Levi is, for good reason, nervous around Charlie. They love to take baths all together.
3.) What is Levi's personality like?
I love Levi, but I am learning to love him for who he is and not what I imagined him to be. I had already formulated ideas from his pictures and what other people said when they met him. When we picked him up in Ethiopia, he was very chill and easy. After we had been home a few weeks things changed. What I know now: He doesn't like to sleep. He is a busy boy. Love to beat on anything..toys, tables, people etc. Loves to eat- 22 lbs:). Loves his blanket. He is constantly moving.
4.) Do you love him the same as Emelia and Charlie?
Yes! Yes! Yes! That doesn't mean I don't get annoyed or frustrated at him. He can be extremely draining. When I went back to work, I ached for him the same way as my bio kids. I LOVE his smell. When he is sleeping I sneak in a smell him. It is different than Emelia's and Charlie's smell but I love it. He just feels like he fits and that he has always been in our family.
5.) Is it weird having a child with different colored skin? Do you get strange looks? What do people say?
This has been a bit problematic. I used to be able to leave my house un-showered in my pajamas (yes, it is true) and be unnoticed. I cannot do that anymore. Every where I go, people talk to me. They want to know where he is from, how long it took and how much it cost. Okay, it's not that big of a deal but I do have to plan for people to interrupt my outing for questions. I have had nothing but positive comments and interactions out in public.
6.) Is your family complete?
No. We are pretty sure we will adopt again in the future. Right now life it pretty crazy so we can't say exactly when. But we know that God has opened our eyes to see what a huge need there is across the world and that we can make a HUGE difference. Right now that difference is in Levi and other people that are considering adoption because of watching our story.
Last night Andrew and I were in bed talking. We had just been talking about the chaos in our lives right now. The fatigue, the busyness, the financial challenges, etc. I then said, "I think I want to adopt again." Andrew simply replied, "Me too." I was shocked. I thought Andrew would get a vasectomy and block all access to adoption blogs with the way the past few weeks have gone. I am glad that God has united our hearts and our callings.